Hello all. All seems a bit vague considering I don't have any comments,
but it seems like a necessary blog post greeting. Anyhoo.... Let's
begin. As of lately, I've been thinking. Words of encouragement can be
extremely destructive for a person's heart. I'm not positive how this
whole thing works for boys, but as a girl I can tell you how it goes.
Let's give it a run down. Girl meets boy. Girl possibly doesn't think
anything of boy, until said friend (more like Cupid's advocate) slips in a little comment. It's not an obvious statement; it will be subtle. Perhaps its a "oh you two are hanging out! ;)" or " you two would be so cute together" or even my personal favorite "you two should get married/you fight like a married couple." And there it is. The deed has been done, innocence gone, and the poison has taken its course. Basically, you're screwed. You didn't even want to think about the guy this way, and now your brain has taken a tailspin, and you're already decorating the centerpieces for your wedding reception, regardless of whether or not you want too. Now when he walks in the room, you can't help but notice things about him you never have before, and you just hope he'll notice your outfit or the fact that you took the time to brush your hair cause you knew he'd be there. You've seen the light! You've met the one, all thanks to the random comment your friend made, which of course must have been in God's plan!.......... Wrong, wrong, and absolutely wrong. Maybe in a fantasy land or a rare situation does this actually work out, but I think most of us can nod our heads when I say that this situation rarely goes down well. The big question is, why do we let our brains get so out of hand? It's kinda basic when subsidized; we want to be loved. But even more basic than that is we are bored. A new person is appealing. Who didn't have a crush on the new boy in grade school and high school? If you're saying no right now then you're blatantly lying. We are tired of our surroundings and if the boys around us can't provide romantic entertainment, then maybe that new boy will give us some attention. Solution on this is simple: when your friend makes that sly comment, kindly tell them to shut their mouths (they'll take it well, they've experienced this before) and take a step back from the situation. Is that man you sit next to in class your new Romeo? No. Is the guy who helped you with Spanish going to be the next epic affair? Probably not. Is the boy who said hi and held the door going to get down on one knee? Chances are, not likely. Will there be a guy that falls madly in love with you, for you and not due to Cupid's tricky arrows? Absolutely. Our Maker designed it that way. But until then, be satisfied and entertained with your own life, regardless of your encounters with testosterone. This now leads to my next portion (I'll make it quick, I promise)...........
I'd like to give credit to my friends. A lot of the time, they are the ones who inspire me and probably the only ones who read this when I ask them too.Tonight, I was having the usual chat with my friend Erin when we were discussing the upcoming semester. She's going off to Rome( lucky girl) to explore and discover herself just like all the chick novels and "Eat, Pray, Love" suggest. But you don't necessarily need to cross the Atlantic to make that discovery and be excited about your own life. And you especially don't need a male counterpart to give you that excitement. So after evaluating my past summer of slight angst and a little heartbreak, Erin and I decided that I should "screw boys." Cliche, right? Also a promise that normally falls through at the first sight of a cute smile, nice hair, and soccer season beginning. But I say, why not. A semester without them! Time to work on my relationship with God and with myself. Because I recently discovered that finding boy isn't the ultimate goal, and the thirst of being wanted won't be quenched when you snag one. So I challenge the few of you that read this, to get motivated, give up the boys, and find excitement in your own life. Set a goal, get into a new hobby, or even do your homework? I know, I know, I'm asking a lot. Whilst working on prayer life and me, I've decided to train for a 5k. What's it gonna be for you?
Peace, love, and a lifetime supply of Gummy Lifesavers,
Olivia
