Love: A Crippling Blindspot

 Happy Valentine's Day people! I've got a new post for you. Expect another sometime in this next day. Special treat! Besides... what's Valentine's Day without some bitter romantic blogging? :)

The phone’s ringing again. Your phone has lit up with yet another text, facebook has a new inbox. What does it say this time? I want you back, baby I didn’t mean it like that, I’ve been thinking about you lately or any of the other phrases that ex that continually bothers you can come up with. Everybody has that person, whether it is an ex, someone you used to like, hookup buddy, or maybe just even the thought of a person, that is repeatedly hunting you down. The sad thing is majority of the time, we take them back. We listen to the excuses which in time will most likely wear away and become nothing. Why? Because I believe that love is blind. And no, not in that romantic, gooey Shakespeare sense. Love is so blinding, it leads us to forget all the things that have happened in the past, because we are feeling the need to be swept off our feet. All it takes is a few coaxing words and actions and then: hook, line, and sinker. We have a winner, and the ex is back for another round of lies, confusion, or just plain old heartbreak. So I ask this of you all, as hard as it may be, to not pick up the phone. I know that this person, or even the thought of loving this person again at one point in time brought you joy; I’m not saying that it’s something to regret completely. But keep in mind that this relationship, fantasy, whatever you will it to be, ended for a reason, and one of those reasons was because of the pain. I can guarantee you that 99.9 percent of the time, you will look back on this moment. Maybe, just maybe that moment will be the happiest of your life. Maybe it works out. But keep this in mind: love should NOT be blind. Love should see all, because loving someone isn’t becoming blind to their insecurities, faults, or flaws. Love is an all-seeing eye that has seen you at your very worst, and loves you regardless and because you are made that way.

Upgrade Not Needed

Dear Readers, I wrote this post awhile back, inspired by one of my best friends. It was her Christmas present. However, even though this is old, I'll have a new post up after this one in a few days. Enjoy!

Trish. Best friend. Tall. Smart. Silly. Beautiful. Irrational fear that someone, somewhere is going to one-up her. She’s not the only one. But perhaps this isn’t irrational. Everyone has different characteristics, different things about them. Sometimes, as sad as it is to admit, people are prettier than others. This always used to bother me. “Why can’t I be like them? Why do they have clearer skin, better hair, cuter clothes?” The questions go on and on, and they are different for every person. You have to realize that people are going to better at things; they will seem absolutely fabulous and you’re going to look in the mirror and scorn yourself because they have what you don’t. Maybe this advice is ancient; maybe I sound like a broken record. But it goes deep, and the feeling of inferiority is going to reappear for the rest of your life, regardless of how big it is. Here’s a piece of advice, although it might be slightly overused. Those seemingly perfect girls, they aren’t you. And although you may not be as gorgeous or as smart as they are, you’ve got something, deep inside you, that challenges their beauty, intelligence, etc. I don’t know what it is, but I can guarantee you that someone in this world, in your circle of society, is jealous of it. Because even if they are stunning in whatever sense of the word, you might have the ability to listen, tell a good joke, pick out an amazing outfit, whatever it is that you do. And they won’t. People spend their whole life looking for someone to love, someone who makes them feel like no one else does. And for a while, the beauty, fashion, and witty remarks will hold over. But like most things, that has a time limit and it will fade. Why? Because all these things can’t keep you warm at night, and they certainly won’t be there to cheer you up or be able to understand you like no one else. However, you will meet someone, maybe a few people, who love you because there is no one in this world quite like you. So be you, whatever that is. Truth is, there’s always going to be somebody prettier, funnier or smarter. But I believe that there is going to be a person, rooted to the ground by your qualities, so satisfied that he won’t ever need an upgrade.